My mom has been in AL for 4 months now. We moved her from living with us to a beautiful 4th floor apartment in a community 40 minutes away. She was limited in her ability to get around on her own on the 4th floor - she wouldn't go on the elevator and the closed staircases were confusing to her. She had difficulty settling in because she refused to ask for help - but she desperately wanted to be involved with others. So we moved her to the 2nd floor where she can come and go to activities without assistance (open staircase and events on 1st and 2nd floor). She did okay settling in with the 2nd move. However, we are now only 4 months in and she is now begging to move closer to her home - which is 2 hours away from me. She is constantly complaining about anything and everything. The food, the workers, the expense, the new neighbor, etc. I get that it's part of dementia but I'm still trying to make her as happy as possible, for as long as possible. If we were to move her to AL in her home town, she would be closer to friends and her siblings - so they COULD visit more (not a guarantee they would) - but she would still live alone and I think still be as unhappy. She has called her sister to come and get her so it's a matter of time before she either does or she applies pressure to my sister and I to make the move. I worry that I will see her less and another move will hurt her more than help her. Do I ignore her constant pleas to go home and hope that she moves onto something else, or do we honor her wish?