My parents are living at a wonderful AL. He is 92 with heart-lung issues and she is 88 with Alzheimer’s. They leave the room for meals but nothing else. They are also refusing cleaning and laundry help. This AL is well known for their programming and positive approach to assistance.
Any help is appreciated.
Before dad moved to AL he was nearly dead and spent time at hospital and rehab. My parents were apart for 3 weeks and I stayed with her when I was replaced by my daughter with sil.
Mom does have incontinence and refuses showers and baths. Dad does not like his oxygen tank. At 91 and 88 I just want them safe. Will let go of activities for now until I return.
My siblings are great with all of this. Each is trying to help them make it work. Possible care conference is on the horizon I heard.
How do they get their laundry done now?
Agree with FF, let them be as far as activities are concerned. they obviously enjoy going to the dining room to eat so leave it at that. I totally sympathize I would get mad if people tried to get me involved in activities and generally jolly me along. I might go to a class if it was something that interested in and i had the energy but if it involved knitting dish cloths or embroidering plastic mug coasters. NO THANK YOU. Maybe if i live to be 90 ( Only 11 more years to go)) i won't fight it and keep dropping stiches and waiting while the nice activities directer comes over and sorts me out. I can be a brat all day. i hope nobody steals my computer.
As for activities, nope, unless it was music related. Dad was in his 90's, and his independence had narrowed way down, thus he needed to have some choices that he could make on his own.
I can't understand why your parents are refusing cleaning and laundry? Aren't those items part of their monthly rent, or do they need to pay extra?