Mom has LB dementia and VD and is doing remarkably well in the AL. We see mom once and twice a week separately, and she has other friends and family visit every week. She would like to live near her extended family and I know they too would visit her and take her shopping, etc. as we do. They are all older and not in the best health, and I worry their enthusiasm for having her nearby would not last, or that they will be unable to keep up. When she visits them she is the happiest. (It does surprise me though how people who have never done the caregiving are also sure they can do it better.) This move would make it more difficult for us to visit her, however. I would assume we would go monthly or every other month. I know it isn't right, but she said that our visits don't count because we are her helpers. Boy that hurt! I am considering an AL in the area she prefers, what do you think? I feel as if her later years should be as happy as possible. Happiness is key.