Today Mom did something that hurt me very badly...I spent several hours with Mom taking her to her PCP for a followup appt. My 18 yr old son came along to spend time with her since he had a day off school and work...Mom was being very difficult today; argumentative and just difficult...I was exhausted after being with her for 1/2 hr but I kept my patience by biting my tongue so as not to cause any problems. My son said I did well considering Gramma being difficult. Mom had told me some things my brother had been doing at the house (he lives with her he's 62) and he's a little 'slow' i guess you would say. He just doesn't make good decisions and my husband and I have always reminded him we are here for him at any time in case he has a question about ANYTHING !!! Well he made a few bad decisions which I reacted to with firmness and impatience directed at him, not Mom. Well this happened a few more times and even Mom was complaining about him. As my son and I were leaving we had said we had a few more places to go before we had to go home. Hugs and kisses and told her we loved her endless times as we left...when my son and I got home my husband said that Mom had called him which I didn't believe at first...I have been with my husband for 10 yrs and i wondered at first if something was wrong. My husband said she wanted to tell him that I was not in a very good mood today and that I was mean!!! Immediately I was crushed and hurt and wondered what possessed her to do that!!! I spend alot of time and energy doing her bills, take her to and from dr appts, spend time with her at home, call her when I don't see her on a day and take care of her personal needs... I'm sitting here just crying because I am so hurt. See, she did the same thing with my daughter years ago. Her and my dad would do and say sneaky things between themselves and tell my daughter if I said or did something... then my daughter and I would argue when it was really something that my parents had started, but yet they would say to her 'don't tell your mother I told you this'....and so I feel this is happening again....I would like to say it is her Alzheimers dementia but she did it years ago and here it is again !!!! What am i supposed to do ??? I wasn't disrespectful to her, I giggled with her today and bit my tongue when she'd say or do something a little 'off'...my son was appalled that she called my husband and said that ... what am I to do ??? I did not call her because I knew I would end up saying something to upset her, but at the same time I don't deserve this treatment... any suggestions ??? I would sure like to know... My son and I had told her that we had a few more places to go before we went home....but when she talked to my husband she said to him that 'she just left here and will be coming home'... !!! So naturally when my son and I came home @ 2 hrs later he was like 'where were you ???'...I was taken aback because he's never questioned me on time when he knows i have to see Mom plus do errands - he's very understanding that way... I am just horrified over this besides hurt and angry, but I don't know what to do...I can't have this happen again... Please, any suggestions .... ???