Hi everyone, I'm sure there's probably a topic somewhere around here on this subject, but I couldn't find one, so I'm starting a new question. I'm just wondering how many caregivers here have friends who, at the beginning of your loved one's illness, said things like, "Oh, let us know if you need anything!", or "We're here for you!" etc., and then all but disappeared? I'm disgusted by this. Even my FIL's church, where he has attend for FORTY YEARS (that's 40, yes), has pretty much ignored him, even though he is VERY well known and loved in the church. And, it hasn't even been that long since his diagnosis, just a couple of months! I'm sad for him. His pastor came to our house to visit Dad, once, for about 30 minutes, which I actually thought was very nice. One other church member came to visit for an hour or so; she was a friend of mine when I went to the same church, and I very much appreciated that. Beyond that, nothing, nada! I'm not on Facebook much, but I logged in the other day, and saw that someone I know had posted a photo of my father-in-law, talking about how much she loved him and how she was soooo sad that he has cancer. She got a TON of responses!!! But did anyone send me or my husband a message, or send a card to Dad, or call, or anything? Nope. So, a random friend on FB gets sympathy, but no one bothers to call the actual family?!?! That's just sick and weird, IMHO. (Oh, and no, that person who posted the photo on FB hasn't bothered to even come visit Dad. Nice.) Oddly, the people who have been most supportive are Dad's neighbors. They were so good about picking up his mail, (until we realized he is here permanently and had it forwarded), keeping an eye on his house, and calling us to check on Dad. I'm so thankful for these people, they're so sweet! It doesn't quite take the sting out of my own friends ignoring me, but it does help, and I'm trying to be thankful for anyone who cares! So, does anyone else have similar stories?