I agreed to give up my job and move in with my mother for a year so she could rehab and hopefully be able to be somewhat independent again. My father passed from cancer and my mother has not recovered. She has since had a stroke and given up the will to do anything but sit on the couch. Granted she had severe R.A. But didn't want to try meds or go to doc or seek rehab .. She can not walk now so she just sits all day. I've never been her favorite but regardless after my father passed I wanted to stay and help if I could. I was remarried in may and my spouse has been wonderful but now it's becoming stressful .. Mom acted like she was on her deathbed but she is just disabled and Depressed. I did it all for a year but had to seek outside help eventually because it was wearing me down and making me ill.. Now I see my spouse only 3 days a week. Every time I talk about going on with my life she wants me to feel guilty. She says how she will be broke and there will be no inheritance if I do not help.. I've tried to explain its not all about her all the time but she says it is right now.. There are two other ladies who she pays to stay with her when I gone and they are tired of her cause she is so stubborn and will not try anything to help herself .. My spouse has been so understanding but when do we start our life? My mother may live for five or six or ten more years? She will not leave her house and I agree about nursing home care where we are at its the worst.. Any advice as to when I should say I have done all I can do and go back to my life . I will always be here for her but I want to live at home .. Am I wrong ? What would you do?