Mom is 70 and has Lewy Body Dementia. Her dementia is mostly visible in that she is no longer ambulatory (wheelchair bound). Her mind is "mostly" intact. I am only 49 and have been her caregiver for 3 years. My family on mom's side (including her and myself) has a history of mental and emotional illness (anxiety, depression, hallucinations). Unfortunately, I have been changed to a few different anti-depressants over the last 3 years that have not helped the situation. I'm finally starting to mellow out but mom keeps telling me that I'm mean to her and then 30 seconds later be mad at me saying she didn't say that or I'm taking it out of context.
The stress level and increase in blood pressure has caused my doctor to now also prescribe me anxiety meds to take as needed. I'm young and only been doing this for 3 years but besides my husband, I have no family to help. I haven't had a vacation in years and my mom has a buzzer for when she needs something that has been rung during attempted periods of intimacy with my husband. I feel like I'm already at the breaking point. :( How do people do this for years? Is it possible that I'm emotionally defunct to the point of not being able to be a caregiver or is that just a cop-out?
I pray for patience and humility. I don't know what else to do. Respite care is out of reach at $275-$350 a day (or $150/day if she stays for 2 week minimum). Thoughts? Thanks in advance.