My 64 year old husband was diagnosed with vascular dementia over a year ago. He functions very well, but exhibits apathy and tobacco use. He stopped smoking 25 years ago, but started back up one year ago. I'm at my wits end trying to get him to stop. He functions very well, but is forgetful. He doesn't enjoy the things he once did (exercising at the gym, attending Christian meetings). He loves movies, going to Starbucks daily, he lives on his phone, listening to music and reading. I was diagnosed with high blood pressure a year ago. I feel due to stress. I retired early from teaching this past summer so I would be available to spend time with and take my husband places. I am bored, lonely and afraid. At times I'm impatient with him, which I feel awful about afterwards. He has one friend who calls him often; with the exception of our out of state children and one son locally, we are literally alone. I am constantly reminding, prodding him to help out around the house etc. The things he likes to do, he remembers, such as eating cooking and drinking. I don't know what to do for the sake of my sanity. Any advice would be most appreciated.
Alone in Philly.