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My Father has been in care home since October 2017. He is age 92 and has dementia. Have gone through a terrible few months with delusions and hallucinations. All of a sudden last 2 visits he's been much calmer. I am on a much needed holiday at present and now worry what I am going back to. At last 2 visits still getting tall tales but the accusations and aggression not there. Could this be the next stage. A calmer one I hope. Don't think I can take any more if it comes back. He constantly asks staff for bin bags to put belongings in as he's leaving. They just humour him. Any suggestions.

Tlhanger
If it was me I would say no.
Very much up to individual and carers relationship etc though.
My Father still eats well and is reasonably mobile. The bad behaviour just got worse and worse at home. They try to make things as difficult as possible. Refuses all help. She's in best place xx
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Mom is 98 and we have been caregivers for 10 years. She has dementia, but on no medicine, just vitamins. She sleeps well and eats well, but once a month for about 24 hours, she goes off the rails. Stands in the hall all night, hollers out to people that have been dead for over 40 years, troubled. Finally goes to sleep for about 12 hours and seems to have a schedule again. I try and keep her bowels moving, but sometimes I think she may be backed up is why this thing happens. She had to go in the hospital the last time this happened as she fell in the hall, broke her tail bone. In a nursing home now, but not liking it or doing well. When she can walk, we will bring her home.
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Thank you.All replies greatly appreciated . Make me feel better. I am in UK but still like this site. My Father does not show aggression to staff. I asked a few weeks ago to consider something to calm. Will check on my return. Maybe they have prescribed something and it is working. I am praying this is the case
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My husband has dementia; short term memory terrible, long term not so bad. Always quizzing me about old memories. How does dementia progress. Has not been diagnosed, but prelim testing says frontal/termporal dementia.
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I agree with cetude. They may have given him meds to calm him down. His aggression would effect the other residents. The facility has to protect them as well as Dad. Yes, they should have told you about any changes and no, they probably don't have to. I am assuming you r not in the US when you say "care home" and "holiday". If so, your healthcare rules are probably different than ours.
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www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Wv9jrk-gXc

Hope this works. This is a very good video of how ALZ progresses. Even though ALZ id considered a Dementia its different than the other Dementias with how it effects the brain. It tends to be hereditary. My Mom was not diagnosed with ALZ but she tended to follow the same stages.
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Perhaps he stabilized?? I would definitely check his meds.
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Calmer? Are you sure they did not put him on psychotropic meds. If they get aggressive they will do that. Otherwise they will kick them out of the facility.
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Dementia progresses, which means overall it gets worse, but sometimes individual symptoms will go away or improve. My husband was paranoid for a few months. I don't think I could have handled any more than that!!

No, you don't know what you are going back to. You'll find out soon enough, though. Enjoy your holiday. Worrying about what you can't control won't help anything and it is counterproductive to your holiday! When you return and see his current status you can decide then how you will deal with it.

The "stages" you can read about for ALZ apply just to Alzheimer's Dementia. About 40% of people with dementia have some other kind. That means the described stages will not apply to them. It is pretty hard to predict what will happen next for any individual. What will be will be.

Let's hope what comes next is easier to deal with!

ENJOY your holiday.
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I was reading an article online yesterday. I don't remember which website or anything, but. I was google-ing the stages of Alzheimer's

and read that demencia can be like a yo-yo. meaning good days and then bad days.

my mom went thru a period, over about 6 months. when it was just one thing after another. telling weird stories(paranoid), got pneumonia, fell and got staples in her arm. and it made me feel like she was really going downhill.

now it seems shes back to her "normal" (she has moderate or worse dementia)

when I read the "stages" you can find online, they never exactly fit my mom.

on one "late stage" it says, "Person is no longer able to take care of finances"
well, my mom hasn't been able to do that for the last 7 years. her memory wasn't that bad 7 years ago, but her memory has affected every part of her daily living in my opinion

gosh lately needing to edit all my replies

my mom has absolutely zero short term memory. I can say a sentence. and she cant recall what I told her a split second later. how long she'll keep at that level I don't know. she still dresses herself and bathes, but forgets to wash her hair. still feeds herself. and is very mobile.
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Patience - your dad is in a care home where he's getting the care he needs. If you can't handle visiiting him, then don't, or just come for short visits as often as your mental health can handle. Also, you can just talk to staff there to see how he's doing and to make sure they are taking good care of him.

Don't feel guilty. You're doing your best, and that has to be good enough.
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