My in-laws are both 90 and live in up-scale assisted living about 1 1/2 hours from my husband and I. In the past 36 years of marriage we have hosted all but one holiday for my husband's parents. My father-in-law is very difficult and the other (3 adult) children are "never available" to invite their parents to visit on holidays. As a result every Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Mother's Day, Memorial Day etc I spend cooking and waiting on my husband's parents. They are very appreciative but have come to expect spending every holiday with us. I would really appreciate some help and have asked numerous times over the years for someone to either host them or visit so that I might have my own family visit. My in-law extended family tend to be quite domineering so that my family feels uncomfortable. My husband's siblings will visit during the year when it is convenient for them and usually end up with a family dinner at our home so everyone can be together. All extended family have plenty of resources for travel, restaurants, and hotels. I am happy to have my husbands family for Christmas, Easter, ect but would really like to just have my own side of the family for Thanksgiving. Any suggestions?