Mom's boyfriend will not get her proper care after a stroke. What are our options? - AgingCare.com

Mom's boyfriend will not get her proper care after a stroke. What are our options?

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Mom had a stroke about 8 weeks ago. Her boyfriend did not let us know. We live out of town. When we could not reach her we went to her house and found her locked in the house by herself. She can no longer walk and did not have access to a phone. She could talk and communicate but seemed out of it. She is on SSI disability. We do not have her ID, POA or access to her medical records. Her boyfriend is controlling and uncooperative. He leaves her alone for 8 hours a day in a bed wearing a diaper. We don't know what our options are.

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Contact an attorney to file for his dismissal. Get evidence in the meantime, as much as you can. This is your only option. Do not discuss matter with boyfriend or inform him you are gathering evidence.
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I think this would probably be considered elder abuse, if not some form of temporary abandonment. As already written, call the police, NOW.

And ask them about criminal actions for elder abuse as well as injunctive relief against the BF to keep him away from her.
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Call the police now. You have a vulnerable adult that if the house caught on fire could not help herself. Still call APS but in the meantime call the police, if she is found in the state you have written, an ambulance will be called and she will be removed from the house and off to the hospital where a social worker can get involved. Hopefully, boyfriend doesn't have POA but even if he did if she is living in the conditions you state and the authorities see this his POA won't be worth anything in fact he may be facing legal charges for his lack of care of your mom.
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What Glad says. And if you don't get an immediate response from APS, I think you should at least consider calling the police. I mean, wtH??? - the risks to your mother just don't bear thinking about.
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Call Adult Protective Services to report the situation. She is not safe locked in the home and that is against the law.
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