How can I get my husband to understand my desire to want to help my Mom and how can I better understand his perspective not to? The time has come where my Mom, my only parent, needs help after suffering a stroke and I want to help and am able to financially- she doesn't live in my state otherwise I would just help personally. However, my husband is refusing since we have combined accounts which I don't understand when we both make over six figures and she struggles to take care of herself physically and now lives on less than 1/4 a month of what we make and her bills are more than that. Yet, here we are going out to expensive dinners, parties, fancy trips, and even most recently helping pay for his parents to join us - which I have no problem doing as he wants to make their life easier financial. I even offered to give up something in exchange to help her. Nope. So how is my Mom's situation any different? Well, apparently his parents have done and do so much for us- a lot financially in past - the wedding, expensive presents, and are handy around the house. My Mom not as much financial as she doesn't have it. For me though, she has done a lot - she raised me by herself, she has given us gifts (not as expensive) but still tries. I just don't know how to get him to understand and I don't how to understand him. Any advise would be appreciated.