I have lupus and fibramyalgia. I get about 3 hrs sleep per night. I care for mom in her home 75 miles away from my home. 2.5 hour drive in CA traffic. I need a break. I need to go home. Been there 6 short hours in 2 months. Had to pay $340 to get it. My 5 cats are being neglected. I live in very rural area so help for them is also expensive and difficult to trust just anybody. I lost my disability because I am mom's DPOA and have access to her checking account. She barely has enough monthy income to meet her bills. But in another bank she has savings and cds worth over 400,000. This amount disqualifies her for all assistance programs. But the bank will not accept the DPOA so I can not transfer any funds to checking to pay for respite care. Mom has Parkinson's and Alzheimer's. She needs full time care and 24 hour supervision. I'm worn out. My health and emotional state are fading fast. What can I do? Its a 5 hour drive to my house and back. Most volunteer respite programs and daycare are for 4 hours. I have had my babies for 8 years. My pool needs cleaning and my weeds are out of control. My house is in high fire danger area. My house is by no means accesible for a wheelchair or any other aids such as bath bench heat air conditioning ect. Too many stairs and throw rugs. Mom refuses to stay in my home. And my brother has been robbing her blind every chance he gets so house can not be left for him to empty out. What can I do to get rest and peace of mind and time with my babies????? Any and all suggestions are appreciated.