My mother in law attends daycare at JML. She has dementia and lives with us. Though my wife has other family locally the brunt of her care falls on us. There are certain aspects of day to day living that are causing great stress in our home. My mother in law's condition has her at a point where she has forgotten basic hygiene, hand washing after using the bathroom. She then will come into the kitchen and want to either handle things we eat off or do her version of dishwashing which means rubbing food residue off,then wiping and putting things away. We tell her on a daily basis that we don't want her to do any of these things,but she won't listen and it causes a great deal of stress in the house. We have suggested other things for her to do which don't involve her doing the aforementioned things,but she either won't do them or just ignores our request and heads right back to the kitchen and to the sink. Along with the dementia she has very poor vision and is hard of hearing. I am a restaurant owner and hygiene is important. I have given her books and print outs on hygiene. She argues that washing her hands after using the bathroom is not a big deal. We are at our wits end. We want to have her at home for as long as possible,but this issue is getting to everyone here. We worry about someone getting ill . What can we do. Thank you.