And when should she stop driving? My MIL has dementia and can no longer: manage her own medicine; remember appointments; remember that she has groceries in the house. She uses the newspaper to find out the day of the week. She lives alone with her dog. My SIL lives in California and we live about 20 minutes from my MIL. My FIL is in a nursing home.
She forgets to let the dog in on cold nights. She denies that she's sick when she's very ill. I've taken her to doctor appointments and she doesn't know why she's there.
Her cooking is reduced to frozen dinners, although she continually thinks she doesn't have food in the house. Her pantry is overflowing with the same things over and over: oatmeal, crackers, coffee....She doesn't seem to see it.
I'm concerned about her driving. I'm concerned that she's given up all her activities and sits in front of the TV all day. And I'm concerned that she doesn't really take her medicine every day.
Last week she went out, got a flat tire, and walked with the dog in the rain to a gas station. She has AAA and a cell phone but forgot about both of those. We were home and could have helped; no call. Thankfully the gas station manager helped her with a ride home.
We've installed security cameras to make sure she's safe. But it's as if every time we put a good system in place it falls short.
When do we seek help through in home care? When do we keep her from driving?
I work full time and so does my husband. He also travels 3 weeks per month. My SIL comes 4 times/year for 2-3 weeks. But it seems like we are on a slippery slope.