How to get mom to sell her home and move?
My 73 year old mother lives in another state. My father died 5 years ago and she is still in their 5000 sq ft two story home. I am an only child and she has no other family. We have been trying to convince her to live with us since my dad died. She does not walk very well and I am concerned about her being in a two story house by herself. Her church friends have expressed to me that they are concerned about her being in the house alone as well. Whenever we try to talk to her about moving she comes up with every excuse for why she can't sell the house. She is very well off financially so money is not an issue. She was just diagnosed with breast cancer and wants me to come stay with her during her surgery and chemotherapy. I would like to be there for her as well. The problem is that I homeschool our 16 year old son who is a professional ballet dancer and my husband (who is currently still able to work) has Parkinson's disease. Because of my responsibilities for them I am not able to leave the state to care for my mother for the extended amount of time cancer treatment will require. We think it makes more sense for her to come live with us and get her treatment here. I am an oncology nurse and we have a world renown cancer hospital in our city that her medical insurance would cover. I understand that it is difficult for her to think about selling the house and leaving the home she lived in with my father as well as leaving her friends from church, but I cannot care for her in another state and I was already worried about her before her cancer diagnosis. Does anyone have any advice for how to talk to an aging parent about the need to sell their home and move to another state to be with family?