Six years ago my dad passed leaving my mom alone in a city over 1000 miles from where I currently live with my husband and special needs adult son. I am an only child. I offered to put a house for my mom on our land and move her here so she could be right next door. I thought I could interest her in joining the senior center so she could make friends but she would have none of it. She told me she moved here to be near me, not near the senior center. Over the years that she has been here she has expected me to call her every day at lunch and to come over and visit her every day after dinner. Did I mention that I also work full time? Anyway, being the “good daughter” I called and visited every day even though most of our conversations are me listening to my mom complain about how terrible it is here and it was so much better where she used to live with my dad or she complains about how “sick” she is, even though she’s not. Recently my special needs son had pneumonia and was hospitalized for 6 weeks. During this time I limited my “daily” visits to my mom and came to realize how nice it is to be able to stay home after work and have a nice relaxed dinner with my husband and son (now that he is home and well). I told my mom that I will call every day but only visit Wednesday evening and on the weekend. She went ballistic and wants to sell the house and take the money and move somewhere where people will “care about her”. My husband and I own the house, by the way. Any words of encouragement out there. She puts a guilt trip on me every time I want to do something with my family. All she wants me to do is be at her house listening to her laments. I need a break.