Mom is 80, she is battling depression more than anything else. Has a lot of arthritis pain which I think is being made worse by the depression. Found her a new and wonderful doctor who is running a battery of tests. She takes a blood thinner so it’s hard to take other medication along side that for any kind of pain so I know a lot of her grumpiness and rage and anger is the pain talking, but it is talking to me.
Long story longer, she and I had a codependent relationship for many years. I have mostly broken that cycle but let me tell you after her ‘tude today, I am low on contact and keeping calls/conversations to a minimum.
My husband and I have been 100% responsible for her care - household repairs, doctor appointments, yard relandscaping you name it. Siblings live on other side of the map so you know, little sister can take care of it all.
Well no more. I am bringing them into the fold and they are on notice.
But I digress.
How do I let the jabs and the zingers go by. She is by no means in a dementia state, her faculties are JUST FINE. She knows what she’s doing. She just doesn’t know its affect on her caregiving daughter. I’m so angry and frustrated and that is the last thing to be with a vulnerable (or somewhat vulnerable) senior.
Any insight? Thanks group.