I've learned so much over the past year about myself and my family and am determined to break the dysfunctional patterns that have existed for generations. Addiction, mental illness, martyrdom, depression, poor self-esteem, hoarding etc. I am close with my adult children and want to discuss what I've learned but I don't want them to think their grandparents (or me) are bad people. It just explains a lot about who I am and how I parented and the choices I've made. Yes, I plan on seeing a therapist when I get home but I'm curious to see how others have healed from this process.