I REALLY Don't Like To Be Browbeaten
If you see my profile, I'm taking care of my older sister. Because she is homebound (or couch bound now) she gets Doctor On Call. She hadn't been eating full meals for months (it's usually applesauseand blueberry waffle for breakfast and that's it. I could sometime tempt her with mixed veg that I get will meals that I'd brought but not very often.)
Anyway, myself and two family friends had warned her about the weight loss and suggested that she go to the hospital. She wouldn't listen. Luckily, I finally got an appointment with her doctor for Doctor On Call (who's been her doctor for about a year). He took one look at her and called for an ambulance to take her to the local hospital. She tried to baulk (as she did to the family friends and me) however, he's a forceful person and overruled her. 'No choice' he said.
(My own doctor did something similar 3 weeks ago, I went to see him in the morning because of diarrhea and vomiting (so I’d skipped my breakfast and breakfast pill, since it has to be taken with food) One look at my 315 glucose reading and I was in the ambulance and on my way to the hospital. I was there for 10 hours.) And yes, my sister was fine (misunderstood what has happening when I'd called her and she told the family friends, who visited me, what happened. I don't think blood pressure go up to 310 ;-))
Therefore, she'd been at the hospital (emergency area, not admitted ) and a Social Worker came by, questioned her, and suggested her to be placed in a nursing home. He started to question my sister and she said she could move around (not that much, she did make it to the kitchen one time but if I hadn't been with her (I'd just returned from work) as she tried to walk back to the couch she would had fallen.
I was only trying to correct her statements to the Social Worker and he accused me of influencing her. I'd stepped back (rather than argued) and he put the curtain around the bed to talk with her alone. She didn't actually agree with him about the nursing home (she said she looks forward to hearing my keys in the door when I come from work.)
I usually put out her breakfast (the after mentioned applesauce and blueberry waffle) and V-8 juice and give it to her (after I'd prepared my own breakfast) before I leave. There's a bucket near the couch (I'd brought her a walker, which she had yet to use, still using her cane when she does try to walk) And yes, now that she's out of the house I will get a bedside commode next paid period for when she comes home.
The EMTs that picked her up said the environment is not good which is why the NH was suggested. Since Medicaid will cover 20 days (after 3 days admittance in hospital) in NH it will give me (and the family friend) time to clean up the apartment.
I did bring that point up to the other Social Worker who shows up the 2nd day of my sister stay at the hospital. He was more reasonable (he said the first Social Worker was his boss and his attitude seem to be expected) And took steps to get my sister admitted (she was today)
What irks me is the first Social Worker talked to me saying I was more concerned about the cost to me than the care of my sister. (I get $1,600.00 a month without overtime. My sister gets about $800.00 a month from state and SSI benefits) I add $500 to her $800 to pay the rent of about $1300.00.
So, according to him, it would be fine for my sister to be comfortable at the NH (providing she could pay for it, remember the $800.00 a month) but it would be alright that I no long have her check to cover the rent and I would be out on the street. No doubt, my sister would be happy to have that happen to me (I'm being sarcastic)
This is more to vent than anything else but as I said above I DON'T like being browbeaten. Luckily, the second Social Worker was easier to talk to. Thanks for letting me blow off steam.