My Husband has been in care for 15 mths. It was a long hard road getting from initial behaviours to diagnosis (FTD!) to placement. Nearly literally killed me. Nothing but abuse and accusations from his family and some of my own. The truth is I was unhappy in my marriage for more than half of it. Now with his illness and other issues that have emerged I see he had problems from the day I met him. Even from care he still tries to maintain control by ringing me several times a day then my son who guilts me into seeing him more. I do everything needed to help him improve his quality of living in care liaising with all the different participants and authorities involved. It’s a lot of work as many would know. However I am sick of playing the loving devoted wife. I am not. I fulfill all my duties and responsibilities as his POA and Health Advocate. I do all I can with companion Carers etc. I do a good job but I don’t really want to see him that much and then I feel bad for that which in turn makes me feel bad.
There must be others who feel the same. How do you do it?