I was in the process of graduating from college again when my husband had an accident now he's been diagnosed with sundowners Parkinson's, has heart trouble. He is 82 and I'm 61. It's been a crazy roller coaster ride for 18 months and I just feel like I'm losing it.
See an elder lawyer about splitting ur assets. His split going to his care. When its almost gone you apply for Medicaid for him. Once he is on Medicaid, you remain in the home, allowed 1 car and get enough or all of your monthly income of SS and any pensions, to live off of.
His Parkinsons is going to worsen and his Dementia will too.
So make sure you're hiring in home help until he needs to be placed, and while the help is there you get out and do things that bring you joy.
You must remember that you matter in this equation as well, and I wish you the very best as you get things figured out and while you find some balance along this journey with the man you love.
God bless you.
Does he qualify for Medicaid for a nursing home? Or can he afford self-pay in assisted living?
Unfortunately, there may be no other options.
Sometimes we just need to think about ourselves, if he is placed you can regain a part of your life back, you are entitled to do this.
Sending support your way,