I’m the first grandchild (I’ve lived with my grandparents my whole life) and I love them dearly. I’m currently a full time college student who still lives at home partly due to my disability. For the past year or so I’ve basically been a caregiver to my grandfather who has Parkinson’s Thursday through Sunday while my grandmother works out of town. On Monday through Wednesday my grandma and I run errands together and she does more of the care taking when it comes to my grandfather. Very recently my grandfather has been slowing down even more and I honestly believe he is moving into the last stage of Parkinson’s Disease and it’s become more of hands on care needed for him that I know for a fact my grandmother and I cannot handle by ourselves. I feel that 24/7 help might be needed as the stage progresses and my schedule is getting more hectic with school as time goes on and I have to start working soon to save up to move out and also put towards my masters degree. So my real concern is that I need to gather up the courage and right words to start the discussion of bringing a caretaker into the home or getting some sort of plan together to help my grandpa as the PD progresses. My grandparents are against hospitals (ironically my grandmother works at one) and my mom and uncles live an hour or two away (each in a different location) so any help we get from them is super temporary (two days max out of every other month kind of help) I just want to gently nudge everyone towards the discussion because it needs to be discussed. For the year I’ve been doing this I can honestly admit to being frustrated and having a few depressive episodes because 21 year olds are hanging out with friends and being independent, and I do not have that luxury 1) due to my disability and 2) being a part time caregiver who always has to cancel and rearrange plans around my grandpa and his needs. I want what’s best for my grandpa but also what’s best for myself and I fear bringing this up to the family I may be accused of being selfish (my mom and I got into a argument around Christmas for a different reason but she brought up how I always put friends before family which is a complete lie but it’s still haunting me a bit because I have to put myself and my needs and interests first because if I don’t, who will? I don’t want to be a caregiver at 21 years old and I am not selfish for that. I just need some advice, encouraging words, or good energy sent my way because this extremely difficult.