My mother in law lives with us and I’m having a hard time getting her to respect my boundaries in regards to my time, in the past I’d respond quickly to her every request but now I realize she’s manufacturing issues in order to get interaction/attention. I am busy and have a life and cannot entertain her all day, and no longer want to enable this dependency. For example, she will interrupt me working to ask where a pan is, or where something in the fridge is , without even looking. I will tell her, I’m busy now maybe look again? Etc but it seems she’s pushing back. Another example, she will ask if she can help with something and then ask the most ridiculous questions every step of the way, like is this how you want it? Is this enough? Etc. It is like she is forcing me to stay with her, when the whole point is to take a chore off my hands. or she will drag on basic conversations. For example, does the food need salt? I reply no it’s good. She will literally keep asking, so it’s good? Doesn’t need salt? Etc etc
how can I gracefully curb this attention seeking behavior? I also have young children who she will literally talk over with her unnecessary questions. I've tried being direct and isn’t working
I should add I’m also an introvert who needs my quiet time, and rarely has any. So I find this behavior extra difficult because I feel my needs are not being considered, only hers.