My husband is 74 years old and had a stroke in 2006. I am his caregiver and have health issues of my own. I am 56 and I have COPD, degenerative disc disease in my back and I am also an epileptic. We have 4 dogs and 5 adult cats and our mama cat just had 4 kittens. All these animals are in the house which is very small. One small bedroom where we sleep and a smaller one where I keep my computer.I work very hard to keep the house clean and he just throws food on the floor for the dogs after I have just swept the floor. We downsized and sold our home and rented this place so we would not have to pay for taxes and upkeep. But it is getting to be way too much for me to handle. I am ready to pull my hair out of my head every morning when I get up and have to clean up after dogs and cats and feed everyone. He can do things for himself but mostly he just sits and waits for me to do it for him. He hasnt bathed for almost a year or washed his hair. He only has the use of one hand and uses that as an excuse not to do for himself. I change his clothes and try to get him to do things for himself but he just makes some joke and changes the subject. My health is getting worse and I have tried to discuss senior housing with him but he says he would rather die and that he will take our camper and go live up in the wild in northern MIchigan. He doesnt event have a drivers license anymore. He knows full well that he cannot take care of himself here, little lone there. I have tried to discuss also getting rid of some of these animals, he says things that make me feel guilty for bringing it up. I am at my wits end. How do I get him to seriously discuss this with me? I am trying to think of myself and the future if something were to happen to him. I never get a break away from here and it is driving me to drink even tho I am a t-totaller. HELP!!!!! He also asks me to do things that he knows I should not be doing because of my back. I cannot afford to have someone come in as we are both on social security. I dont know what to do. Help me please.