Mother is taking more than what can fit in her independent living place. What do I do?
Got mother to like moving to a independent living place. It's 5 hrs away packing her 3 bedroom home shes taking more than will fit. Mom had 2 strokes and decided to move into independent / assisted living facility. Been caring for her over a year. The problem is she wants to take more than will fit and she won't budge on reducing her needed items. she wants all 12 wine glasses for example she wants more furniture than will be comfortable overcrowding her little 1 bedroom small living room apt.. Besides the stress I go through from her constant picking on my wife verbally I've come to dislike her as she has changed so much and constantly negative and mean. I can't get it through her head she only has limited room for her things. I have sold my house and much stress in that alone by getting it empty by june 15. I feel like I'm loosing it and just want to run and never look back, but can't and won't. I'm so tired and fearful of telling her what reality is, she gets angry at me. I'm totally stressed out and lost 20 pounds from worry and stress. I don't know where to turn. I've talked to the very few friends she has for help they can only suggest but it goes in one ear out the other. I know the answer will not be here online But I just need to vent before I lose my mind. Feel like leaving the packing her house job to the movers instead of trying to save her money by helping myself. She is able to pay for it, I can only imagine what the movers would go through they would pack everything and attempt to unload a 3/2 house into a tiny 1/1 apt. Her reply when I tell her it's too much she says I'll just throw it away there then. No logic why pack it and pay to take it. I offered to yard sale all thats left to help but it like talking to a wall. Sometimes I wish I was never born. I have no brothers or sisters to help but a wonderful wife who does so much, but mother constantly abuses her verbally, I hate it.