My parents are 19 years apart. My dad is 90 and mom is 71. He is and has always been very stubborn and secretive and makes most decisions. I always thought that he would experience health issues first, but my mom is suffering from memory issues and depression. I recently moved them closer to me which was a huge undertaking and exhausted all of my patience so it is now hard for me to deal with them without becoming angry (not to mention I work and have my own family). My dad will not listen and accept help or understand that people take advantage of elderly (like trying to sell him a new car or AC). Not to mention, he does things without telling me or asking for help and tries to keep it a secret or lies about it. I can't get him to let me handle finances (I am an accountant), services for their home or anything else. I am afraid that they are going to die in the car since he is 90 and still driving all over the place and won't tell me where they are going. My mom has forgotten how to use the internet and her cell phone, so if something happens while they are on the road I don't know what they'll do. I am also beginning to fear either her dying first and having to deal with him or when something happens to him having to put her in an assisted living and going through all of their hard earned money for her care because they won't listen to my advice on how to set up their finances now to protect them in the future. Anybody got advice on where I can go for help?