As some of you know my mother is beyond difficult. I work 14 hours a day 5 days a week with a 1 hr and 45 minute commute each way in nasty traffic with a high stress job. I have to wear suits so when I get home ALL I want to do is retreat to the quiet of my bedroom and tear off my suit asap. But so far I haven't figured out a way to excuse myself to my bedroom without sending my mother (as some of you know from previous posts) in a rage. I don't want to talk about my day (and relive that nightmare) or hang out I have very serious matters that I have to deal with, she lives in her own NPD world with oodles of free time. I dread going home, today I was driving home thinking about her waiting for me and I started sobbing. I need to get to bed almost immediately because my day starts so early. My mother who enjoys being mad and LOVES to fight has NPD and all the entitlement issues that NPD people have. I detest an argument, to avoid it I have always in the past said: sorry. Just for my own sanity. But that's created a worse monster. I can't get mother in a home because it seems just being mean and nasty doesn't qualify. She is only in the very early stages of dementia. She told me yesterday she is waiting for me to get rich so I can buy her a condo. I already buy her everything. I saw RED. I work so hard to where my health was in serious decline last year, she has been lazy her entire life and always leaned on someone else to take care of her! So many of you have brilliant ideas.......any idea how I can just get to my room and rest without being ambushed at the back door by mom who wants to hang out?