My 60 yr old mother is not only a narcissist, emotional terrorist, I believe using drugs, the best at playing the victim role and refusing me access to my father for over 4 months now. Long story short as a daughter who wants to be involved in my Dad's life and help in caretaking is there any thing in the state of Ohio I can do to make her legally bond to not interfere with his well being. The situation is perverse and complexed. However, I see the more I push for my boundaries to be respected & she is seeing am a 1+ yrs now into my healing process she is getting worse. Calling the police claiming I am threatening her, which is a lie. Stating I believe she is doing drugs is not a threat in my opinion nor is telling the truth.
This isn't healthy for any of us and her game playing just seems to be getting more dramatic. Now I am being told by an Aunt she uses whom isn't aware she is being used as of yesterday said my mother will allow me to see him only if I sign a paper stating any paper he may sign is null and void???? Oh, and she needs to supervise where as before I wasn't able to see him because she need to find someone to supervise? I don't know what to do but I know this is cruel to do to a man who doesn't have time to waste nor doesn't ask me everytime. I do get 3 phone calls since Feb when begging my Aunt to plz have my mother have my father call...I miss you all the time when are u coming to see me.
I don't ever want to upset him nor know what to say and I just play dumb. This is breaking my heart and yet I fear that it will be worse if I legally call authorities and she fools them or idk I just dont know what to do. She won't allow my siblings and I to spend time with him together since she claims to be advised not to??? Everything is always a lead into something even more dramatic than the last time. Please any and all support is welcomed! Oh, and my siblings have chosen just to raise the white flag as to not have to deal with her as where I just can't do that. He is my dad and a human being! She refuses to accept any accountability nor just seems to distort reality as she pleases! It's maddening and am trying to keep my cool because I believe she uses my Aunt unknowingly to trigger me and wants me to freak out. However, seeing her do this when it concerns someone who is not able to do for themselves as she proclaims a caretaking martyrdom has made me sick in a way that I'm not sure I can ever see her the same way! Its been scary but profoundly eye opening! I just don't want to deal with her and if having to like it to be not in a way she can continue to play games cause she finally at 40 has lost control over her naively thought she wasn't this woman kid...sorry I know my grammar is dreadful but again this in and of itself is triggering but am proud of myself for even reaching out!