Have been trying to get psychiatric help for 15 years for mother who just turned 89, since a private detective telephoned in 2005 to tell me my mother had hired him to spy on a man she had had a crush on for 40 years. In her mind, the man wants to marry her (he died in 2012, she refuses to believe so).
Her delusions are compartmentalized, so she can appear superficially functional, while behind closed doors she is a recluse, a hoarder, she gives away money to scammers, her finances are disordered, her hygiene is poor, and she has paranoia, believing neighbors enter her apartment and steal worthless items. Occasionally, she has accused me, her only child (daughter) of thefts.
I need to hear from anyone who has experience getting psychiatric intervention for a senior with a longstanding mental health problem (hostility, delusions, some paranoid) who is also losing capacity to manage her affairs, from hygiene to money. No, I don't have any POA. The thought of her granting me that is laughable.
In New York, we have Article 81 of the Mental Hygiene Law to get guardianship/ conservatorship. I've heard it's a difficult process; if you are familiar with getting an Article 81 guardianship, do share your experience!