Right now trying to sort out the best course of action. I am so burnt out caring for my Mother who is in what I think is her seventh year of dementia. I have been caring for her for five years. I have followed the post here and other web sites about different solutions. I have read over and over that people who have dementia seem okay with being put into memory care facilities allowing their children and or caregivers to walk away without guilt.
That is just not what I am experiencing. My Mother is scared. She asks me over and over what is wrong with her. She is aware that her mind is not working correctly. I try my hardest to keep the tone of my voice friendly but sometimes when answering the same question over and over I snap. When that happens she says, Why are you so mean to me? God, I am not mean at all but confess to be inpatient at times. One minute she says I never wanted you to take care of me and the next accuses me of trying to get rid of her. And in the next breath will ask me Is this my house and praise me for being a good sister. I am her daughter.
I am looking for solutions, investigating day care, hiring a companion or God forbid putting her in a long term care facility. To complicate things further I am also having memory issues. It scares me to make decisions for her when my own judgement is impaired.
Sorry, just venting I guess.
For those of you who have faced these issues I am just wondering when will she be happy and unconcerned with her decline?