Have you had a person with dementia angrily confront you, while mocking you in a child's voice and giggling? It's the creepiest thing.

Blue,

Take a break from your mom. Plan a vacation and sit under a palm tree with a tall drink! I am not joking. Your mind needs a rest from all of this. Hire someone to check in on mom if you must.

You will love Northern California, where I have lived since 1967. I used to live in Hampton, Virginia before we moved here.
The weather has been amazing as usual.
Hearing what others have gone through makes me feel almost lucky my Mom died in 2000.
I wish all of you PEACE.

Sounds like 5 days from now can’t come soon enough

That is creepy as hell. Glad you only have to endure it for 5 more days.

Wow, blue, I can't even imagine, hang in there!! Your going to need a bunch of rest and relaxing

That’s disturbing . Maybe an underlying second personality coming out ?? 🤷‍♀️

A Study Just came out from Harvard That the brain Of a Elderly Dementia Patient is No Different then a person with schizophrenia - The Nuerotransmitters are Misfiring and what ever hallucinations they are having is real to them . Plus there is brain Damage . She doesnt Know what she is saying or doing . So dont take it Personally . I had one brother with schizophrenia His hallucinations were rather Grand involving Louis the 14 , The Queen of Stuttgart and On - This was His protection . Then there were other times he was completely Normal and held a conversation with me for 5 hours . The other brother his hallucinations were of torture being Burnt by cigarettes by witches - Over time and medication he was able to hold a Job at the department Of mental health and work the crisis hot line and Have his own apartment . Both brothers have Passed Primarily from the heavy medications such as Clozaril and smoking . My Mother came down with Dementia ( But I did not Know ) and Brought her to the Doctors because she kept falling Over Piles of paperwork and I was shocked when she spoke In a Little girl Voice to the Doctor . I had Never heard this Voice before . I said to the doctor " What is Going On ? " I had No idea . Then my Father got sick with Vascular Dementia , OCD behavior , Mania and Alzheimers . I am surprised I am still standing . The Manic Behavior was very difficult to deal with . Take that trip .

I've seen the chlid-like voice and even the "baby talk" from many of my care clients with dementia over the years.

Here's how I've always handled that.

I'd look the person square in the face and tell them plainly in a firm manner without anger something along the lines of:

"You're (say their age and name). You're acting like a damn fool because you aren't a baby/toddler".

Sometimes I'd simply repeat exactly what they said back to them with the same baby-talk and mimicking. Then ignore them. This works and they stop. Most of the people I've worked for who did this didn't do it with me again after I reveresed it on them. They would for others, but not with me.

You know, nine times out of ten both of these approaches work. The tenth time when it doesn't, I would just completely ignore the person like they weren't even there until the child behavior and baby-talk stopped.

You say if you pretend to be asleep, she drifts away. Think about that. If she doesn't get attention from you when she's doing this, she goes away. So don't give her a moment of attention when she's doing it. Walk away and totally ignore her. If she follows you, let her but pretend she's not even there.

I find after 25 years of being an homecare caregiver that the clients with dementia who can do the baby-talk and mimicking still possess enough of their brain function to stop doing when the behavior does not get a reaction they want. If the caregiver doesn't behave like they're hurt, and the behavior results in them being ignored and getting no attention, they stop.

Believe me, your mother will not get attention from the staff in memory care from this behavior. They see this every day, all day so they will do for her as they normally would.

You're making the best decision putting her in memory care. You really are. Enjoy your trip. The redwoods are awesome.

I am starting to get visions of Linda Blair here. At least there is so far no green emesis.

I think when they move into memory care the suggestion is that you do not visit for some weeks. Talk about a deserved vacation, woman.

Do update us when mom goes to her new home.
And do expect them to come to suggest a trip to the MD for some good sedation!
On the other hand, Mom may provide some quality entertainment there.

Let us know when Mom goes into care.

Let us know when your mom enters the MC. We will celebrate with you, for sure!

I'm so glad your mom is going to be moving memory care, it sure will be a relief to you. Don't ever doubt your decision! I would find that behavior to be scary. I'm glad to see that BurntCaregiver has experienced this and it isn't just something with your mom. Go take that vacation!

That is creepy. My Mom became childlike but never talked in a childs voice or did babytalk.

Today is Sunday so...4 more days? Please take that vacation as soon as you can. Mom should have time to adjust without you being there anyway.

You deserve a very large exhale.
Please get some good rest soon and take care of yourself.
Job well done.

2 more days? I’m here for the countdown.