As an only child of an actress extrovert mother I was always told I was never good enough. The house was always full of people growing up and my mum and dad never had time for me. Now my dad has died and mum has got old and she relies on me. I have never abandoned her and do her shopping and help her with things but I really am not a talker and she is constantly telling me she is lonely but will do nothing to sort this herself. She has a friend who goes to see her and my mother continues to tell me her nice she is as she sits with her. I am never given any credit and really don't want to sit with her. Mother's Day is hard as I struggle to find a card that consent say to the best mother in the world etc. She recently gave me a box of paperwork to go through and there some hand written pages. I read only two paragraphs of one of the pages and it said that I had been an awful daughter and slagged me off. I find it too hard to discuss with my mother as she tells me regularly she is an old lady and she has been ill recently. I am sure most people's sympathy will be to my mother but I feel very hurt as I have constantly looked after mum. I call her daily and see her 2 to 3 days a week. She is 88 and I am 61. I find the whole relationship a strain when she loves to tell me how good others are whilst she clearly thinks I am awful. Does anyone else struggle with caring for a relative who they struggle to like but won't give up o. Them?