My Mom worked and sent money to my sister who was a single mother with two children. My Mom worried they wouldn't have enough food and my sister profited by it. She won't stop - I've asked her to. HELP! She is still asking for money - hundreds a month it adds up to. She now uses her animals or ill health to emotionally blackmail my mother. I've explained Mom is in a home now and cannot afford to send her so much money and yet she continues to get her upset. I've inherited her now - I'm trying to wean her off - my husband and I are on a fixed income. She won't speak to me but just asked again for $200 for her pet deposit. My Mom is afraid she won't get the apt if we don't send it and she will be without a home. I want to satisfy my Mom yet not get duped by my sister and have to carry her forever. I am trying to be strong yet don't wish her any bad of course. I've explained about Mom needing her money and I am now on fixed income. My sister didn't work for years and years and I worked for 35 years - yet she's accused me of spending Mom's money I've never taken a DIME or asked for a DIME from Mom and I've cared for her for the past 25 years - the last 10 with my husband before she went into a home for dementia. It's just awful and God says take care of your family YET spare the rod spoil the child - I don't know what's right. It just makes me SICK cause I'm really like my Mom and want to make sure she is OK - yet she needs to stand on he own two feet cause all of us won't always be here cause we're all older - she's 50 and hasn't worked for 30 years being on assistance. She's nasty with me, acused me of spending 'it' and of 'untrust of her' - cause she sees me as her 'block' between what she can get from Mom but I am committed to Mom to protect her and care for her and have done so as PA for the past 15 years cause she also has macula degeneration. Morally and emotionally my sister is corrupted I believe - I am ripped in the center here cause she's my baby sister with ill health now and yet she's accusatory and nasty also when she doesn't get what she wants. I will not ever let her be homeless or hungry yet - she can leverage this caring cause she's in California and we never really know if she's being totally truthful cause she can play on emotions like none other!! HELP!