I've posted here many times over the years while caring for my aunts, mother, and now just my mother. She recently turned 90, and is still living independently in an apartment, by her choice. However, she is becoming more and more negative and anxious. She is supposed to take Xanax for anxiety, but won't until she gets herself into such a nervous, negative state that it affects her blood pressure. One doctor told her she is her own worst enemy. I take her out two days a week, to the doctors, and for family dinners (usually 2-3 times a week). My neighbor is willing to take her out another day for Bingo, and my son said he'll take her to church any time she wants. She rarely calls on them and then vents to me - constantly. Nothing is ever enough and she says she's bored. I have suggested moving to senior living, and she gets very angry with me. She would love to live with me and my husband, who just retired, but I still work from home and she is very demanding, manipulative, negative, and controlling. It's hard enough spending time with and doing what I do for her, and I'm her only child. Nothing I do or have ever done for her is good enough. I believe it's more than enough, though, and I also call her every day I'm not with her. I've even introduced her to a lovely neighbor who she could visit with, but she's already found fault with her. How do handle this situation? Thank you!