I could really use some advice. My grandmother lives in a group home with two other seniors. The caregiver seems to have reached burn out. From what I understand she has been working as a caregiver for a bit over a year as well as working a part-time job as a realtor. She is a wonderful person who seems to have really connected with Grandma, but I'm not sure she has ever had someone with as many problems as Grandma (who has dementia). She been very overwhelmed and seems to be having bad burn out.
At the moment I don't have a job and so I told her to let me know if there was anything I could do. Lately, she has taken me up on that and has been asking me to come over two or three times a week for the last three weeks to keep a eye on everyone for around 6 hours while she goes to meetings and other things. Honestly, I was a bit worried at first since I don't have any training in this kind of thing, but as I know many people do this for family members I figured it was worth trying if it helped and I could call her if there was a major problem. For the most part it goes pretty well, the other two residents are very easy and for the most part like to watch tv and work on puzzles. That being said, Grandma is getting worse. She spends a lot of time in her room, napping a lot and doesn't understand why I can't stay with her the whole time. The reasons I'm not spending my time with her when I'm not helping the other people are that 1) her room is in the farther part of the house and it's hard to hear what's going on in the rest of the house while in there, 2) I feel like I'm ignoring the other people when I do that, 3) there are things I need to be doing (washing dishes, making lunch, cleaning up ect.), and 4) the caregiver as asked me not to since she feels it "spoils" her and she starts expecting the caregiver to spend that much time one on one with her and she is just too busy to be able to do that. Like I said, Grandma is getting worse and yesterday for the first time when I came into Grandma's room with her lunch she had gotten up and was leaning against her dresser. This doesn't sound like a big deal but she has been wheelchair bound for almost a year, usually unable to stand on her own. Her legs have been getting stronger and Grandma is forgetting that she isn't strong enough to be getting up on her own. The caregiver told me that in the past she has tried to stand and just slid to the floor. Anyways, when I found her we were lucky, she told me she almost fell backward twice but I found her before she did. I've been asked to come back and help on Monday but I'm not sure how to deal with this? How do I make sure she is safe without spending all my time with her? My going over to help is short-term. The caregiver has found another couple who will be taking over as full-time caregivers (being a group home the caregiver lives in the house, and the new couple will take over that) with her providing respite care for them. That being said, I don't think something like a camera monitor is a good idea, even more so since I'm just helping out, I don't really feel it's my place to try and do that. Still I need her to be safe. Anyone have any suggestions?