Should I give elderly father a time-frame to move out? Should I cut back my help to a proud father?

I'm helping my Mother with her finances and she gets upset with me sometimes. I put together a simple spreadsheet for both are benefit. I also pay her bills on-line and transfer a certain amount of her income for saving and non-monthly expenses. But she still has her "control" over her finances with my oversight. It can get frustrating and sometimes I have to back off and approach an issue another time. Try explaining your just trying to help and you're sorry if you're being too pushy. This can go a long way in smoothing over hurt feelings. I also explain how I am feeling. For me, timing it correctly is a big factor, too. If my Mom is tired or is just not in the mood to discuss finances, it helps to try again later.

Don't know on on the moving issue. Have you talked to him about it? How is his physical/mental health? Do you live nearby? Are there senior services available in your area?

I live in across the country from my Mom and call everyday to check on her.

I would suggest looking for an assisted living or Memory Care program. Sounds like he needs to have a Power of Attorney assigned for finance and also one for health care. Has anyone in the family broached these topics with your father? Unfortunately, you are now in the position of needing to be more proactive in caring for your father, much like your parents did for you when you were a child unable to make decisions for yourself. It sounds like it is time for a family meeting with your siblings, if you have any, or contacting your local Department on Aging to assist you with the activities that need to be done to adequately care for your elderly father.