Family members are in denial. My Dad had dementia and has had 2 strokes, before he left the hospital Dr.s told him in March he should go to assisted living, Family that do not live around here agree with Dad and becasue he says he does not want to go they blame me for trying to push him or make him go. He has started 2 fires outside, left the stove on and went outside to mow, got lsot when driving, is spending money terrible now not in a good financial situation, ( sister only sees that part as a concern) Puts frozen food in cubard, I throw it away and get acussed of taaking the food home, I have tried everything, social workers, senior linkage,ect. Dad says as long as I have you I will be fine, i have tried to stay away for a few days but he calls me at work or my cell phone and is all ancious and wants me there. One time home nusrse tha comes once a week to do meds was not even shceduled to be there and he called 911 looking for nurse. How do you convience family and parent. I find my self as other caregivers totally drained yet I do not want to make him feel bad. Sometimes when I go and he is all worries and scared I will say Dad this has got to stop, it is not good for you, you need to go somewhere you are safe and have people around. He will say yes, I know that and will agree with me. We looked at 2 places then he talked to family and said I don't know if I want to go then they will say then don't. I'm bask tosquare one. My sister and I both have POA and she is just now bringing that to Dr. appt. and wanting to be in control. I have taken my Dad to all appt. to the last 10 years now she wants to be in control but 2 hours away. Anyone have suggestions?