My dad had a stroke last year. But this refusal to take care of himself goes back years and years.
He absolutely *refuses* to take care of basic things like showering daily, brushing his teeth at least once. He's diabetic, had multiple heart attacks & a stroke and REFUSES to change other habits like eating food that will increase the likeliehood of another stroke/heart attack.
He will go weeks without showering, and he will only do it once I yell/curse. He will then respond "don't yell at me." Obviously this isn't healthy and I don't want to yell at my own father. My father isn't completely disabled - I strongly believe with enough physical therapy he will be fully able bodied again.
I'm 29, and I already have my own share of health problems/bad habits - a lot of them I seem to of inherited from him. Almost everything I hate about myself seems to stem from him, and when I get reminded of that, it just makes me more frustrated. I'm trying to get my career started in the cyber-security industry and all of this just feels so overwhelming.
The stress of it all makes me want to run for the hills and pretend that my dad doesn't exist. This is also causing some issues in my marriage that I really don't want to end in divorce. Advice? Please help!! I am SO overwhelmed.