It's been 3 months since my father died and I cannot motivate myself to move forward. Any advice?

Martinamarie, I know how you feel.   My heartfelt sympathy for your loss.   Caregiving, as we all know here, is so emotionally and physically draining, being it hands-on caregiving and/or logistical caregiving.

I had zero energy after my journey with caregiving, even though I had help with professional caregivers.   It was just all that stress for the past 7 years.

Have a doctor run a blood panel for B-12 and D, to see if either or both are low.   Mine were low.   Once I started getting the full dosage recommended I started to feel a bit better, felt the energy coming back.

I also went to talk therapy, and lucked out finding a therapist who was around my age and who had also dealt with her own issues with elderly parents.   Thus, when she would say "I know what you are going through", I knew that she really did understand.

Once you start feeling better, could you work part-time?   I am so glad I have a job where I need to get up in the morning, get my brain running on all cylinders.

Martinamarie -first of all I'm sorry about the loss of your father. I'm not sure I have any advice except I think it is a good thing you are looking to take care of yourself and to see a psychologist. Let us know how you are doing.

My step mom a few months ago moved my dad into nursing home (after a fall). She had been 24x7 for nearly 5 years. When he first went in, she was so exhausted and burned out that she pretty much slept for the first several weeks. The years of caregiving really take a toll. She had a physical and works with a psychologist and is getting her spirit back & started to get interested in things again.

I think you are taking the right first step. Give your self a little time to grieve and recoup. Take care.