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Do not expect him to be happy. But know that you may be surprised that he did quite well. When a friend finally put his partner in AL and took a respite which wasn't really one as his Mom was ill in another country, he returned to a man who thought he had been on a vacation at a motel, and who had a wonderful time. So just saying, he won't like the idea, but you may be surprised by the outcome. Or not. Because that isn't really the question. The real question is how can you continue on without a break?
Imagine when you go to pick Dad [88 per your profile] up, he would be like a kid at summer camp who wants to stay longer :) And that's a good sign, maybe if Dad can budget for Independent Living [you don't say what are his medical issues, if any] or for Assisted Living, he might prefer to remain at the facility.
My Dad had moved to Independent Living and said later on he wished he would have moved into that place years earlier.
My mother goes to adult day care 3 days a week, my brother looks after her 0-6 hours a week as his work schedule allows, and I use some additional private pay hours to attend the grands' events (mostly ballgames). Mom spent 10 days with my aunt (her younger sister) this summer while I went on a vacation with the grandnephews. Mom has spent a couple of days at a time with my aunt over the last 3+ years when I needed to travel for work and one weekend when I just needed a break.
If there's no one available within the family to provide some respite care, then I suggest you find or employ someone to care for your step-father in his current place of residence. Social workers at your local Area Agency on Aging (AAA) should help you find services for your step-father. Engage him in an adult day care if you can. Not whether he wants to go but whether you can find an affordable one that will accept him. Start looking for an affordable AL/MC for respite care and then use it. Care giving is often not sustainable without some respite.
If you die of a stress-related illness, where will he live then? Will he have an advocate?
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