I have began to help my Mom first with her medications. Just getting all of them together in one place and double checked them with prescribing Doctors so every one was one the same page. Then I typed out a med list, made 3 copies, one I put in a envolope and clipped a dated detailed list of her meds to the refrigerator, sent one to one of my 3 brothers, and kept one. I also started making her Doctors appointments as asked to by my Mom. I was already for several years giving her rides to her appointments. I also do her shopping and occasionally, buy her a nice NY Strip my treat, and make her a nice dinner (once a week at minimum). I do my best to get her to drink fluids, buying her a flavoring dropper for her water and continually am filling ice cube trays with bottle water to keep her water cold and freeze 3 or 4 bottles of slightly flavored water. This makes it easier for her just to go in the kitchen and grab a bottle of water out of the freezer. And so much more. I have no problem doing this for my Mother. She put up with me and my craziness for over 10 years or so. This in no way makes me feel any obligation to do this for her. I do what I do because she is my Mom and I love her. That's the bottom line. Lately she seems to be mad at me around half the time I'm there lately closer to everytime. There are now at times when she gets mad because I talk to her Doctors like she herself asked me to do. I always loved going over to just visit. Lately I have felt like I don't want to go over because of her abusive behavior. Any thoughts out there in happy land? I am so tired at 60.