My 75-year-old mother lives with me. She has had two strokes. The only lasting damage seems to be a vascular dementia. However, the only things that my mother EVER has enjoyed is shopping, sleeping, eating, or watching TV. She does not cook anymore and will not try. She does not do puzzles or read. She gets virtually zero exercise. She does not pick up after herself or even get dressed daily. She barely comes out of her room and sleeps all day long. She is also very mean and has no boundaries within the house or with people. She has always expected people to do things for her. She complains about being "sick" constantly, and has gone to the hospital by ambulance on several occasions only to find nothing wrong with her (starting infrequently at age 33 and becoming far worse over the years.) She has been on anti-depressants for years and years. She complains, talks about people, insults, "tells on" people, all the time, and she is getting harder and harder to live with. She is never wrong and any disharmony in the household is blamed on everyone and anyone else. She would never accept outside help, nor would she join a senior center or accept counseling. Her only friends are relatives who are often occupied or limited by their own lives and/or health. Any offer to reunite with past friends is met with excuses and reasons not to go. Quite frankly, her demeanor has always been harsh or negative, and now it's coupled with her constant complaining, so people don't WANT to be around her, including me. Truly....she would accept NO PROFESSIONAL help. She would become angered and fly off the handle. She has no zest for life, and although fears death, seems only to be waiting to die. However, I should mention that she can put on somewhat of a phony/"crazy" show in front of others not close to her to give the impression that she is anything other than miserable.