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I am dealing with the temperature wars with my Dad at his apartment in Independent Living. I think 75 is a good temperature for him, but he will push up the heat to 80... and the other day when it was 90 degrees out and the sun was shining on his side of the building, he didn't have on the A/C but did have on the fan. Apparently these temps are ingrained in his brain as my late Mom preferred the sauna temps in the house, and Dad would run the fan to bring cool air up from the basement, thus that musty air all over the house :P
I'd also be concerned that his wife doesn't know how to care for him if she doesn't realize how incontinence and dementia work. As you say, you can only do so much, but if she's verbally scolding him, I'd try to inform her that's it not his fault. I wonder why his doctor doesn't explain it to her.
Older people also start losing bladder control. They use the bathroom more frequently and sometimes don't make it. It is why protective undergarments are so popular for older people.
There could be something wrong. A physical by his doctor may be able to find out what it is. Or it could be that he is just getting old.
Has she started being thirsty and drinking more fluids?
Increased urination leads to thinking about diabetes. Does she have it? or been tested?