Mom is 85 and has smoked for 60 or more of those years. She first broke her right femur before Christmas and was only in hospital a couple weeks. Got her healed from that then she broke left hip in Feb. She was in skilled care for 5 weeks with that and she has dementia so she didn't remember she smoked so we went with that. Well after a couple weeks home it suddenly came to her. We tried to ignore it and then told her she quit but she would say no. This went on for a week and she became sad and mopey and uncooperative. Since I am her main caregiver and also the oldest sibling who had always been closest to her I gave them back to her and what a difference it made. She does really well for the PT guy, eats so much better and is happy again! I ration the smokes! She does not have the pack or the lighter and is fine with that. She has one every hour or two. She is not on oxygen so no worries there. Anyway my little sister who is 12 years younger than me and was never home cause husband in Air force calls to tell me that I am unfit to take care of mom and am only here to mooch off of her. How hateful can someone be? I've been living here with her since she asked me to move in when my dad was sick and that was 15 years ago. I want to be the one to take care of her cause she took such good care of my dad so he could die at home.