Long story short, mom has advanced Alzheimer's. She had NO assets and so is on Medicaid, but even with Medicaid still has a patient responsibility of ~900/month for the nursing home, which I pay. I have 3 kids, and a full time job. So, I end up taking lots of time away from my kids to see to her needs (keep on top of things in the nursing home, make calls about getting bills paid, etc.--you all know how frustrating and time consuming that kind of stuff can be). It's also a difficulty for us to pay the 900/month to the nursing home. Again, it's money not being spent on my kids, and it's getting tight for us. I find myself increasingly resentful of the time and financial strain that caregiving is costing me. It's stripping me of my compassion and making me grumpy and mean. How do handle those nasty feelings? I don't want to feel nasty about things like money, but I'm so stressed out about making ends meet. And I'm so tired of trying to balance work, home, kids, and very need mother.