When I started out on this journey as sole caregiver for my elderly mother, I had illusions that it would be like a Hallmark Channel movie. I'm not sorry I did it, but the personal cost has been more than I could really afford, with unhappy truths revealing themselves, rancorous arguments, crushingly difficult decisions, and pretty much no support from the rest of my family. I can blame myself partly, as I had little confidence in the rest of my family's ability to work together on this, and tend in general to go it alone. That's been borne out, but I think if I was starting over, I'd get the rancor out of the way early, and get them involved whether they liked it or not, or whether or not I felt comfortable asking for help. I'm not deceiving myself that the difficult would suddenly have become easy, but I think the personal toll would have been much less.What are your thoughts?