My Dad always claims to be sick or that he suffers from an illness that’s life threatening. It’s been like this since I was a teenager and now I’m in my mid 30’s - to be fair he does or did have his share of diseases (heart issues, epilepsy, blood pressure, recently lymphoma in the stomach. It is traumatic and enduring for me to always emphasize by him triggering sympathy to feed off of it, but it’s like the kid that cried wolf. As of late I felt no remorse, but that guilt was there. I kept hearing terms like “it’s all in God’s hand , there’s no hope , change the subject son" coincides with the exact same response I get 10-15 years back. Reason I’m reaching out to this community is to know how should I react. I’m at a cross roads, 1 I can’t help but to sympathize, and worry, while 2, I can’t help but to grudge and feel anger for this method which mounts concern and worrying towards him ( should it be true ). But one thing is for certain is that I’d never do this to my kids, knowing all of the above from this brief intro, is it an exasperation from his part? Is it real? Or is it some psychological tool that he uses at his arsenal .. keeping in mind we are close as a family?