He refuses to go to personal care. He has fallen several times and is not safe. He lives in a boarding room and access to kitchen and laundry is on the other side of the house and you must go outside. He doesn't clean his room and do laundry unless I come over. He can't get food unless I come over. I live over an hour away. He tells me he can do this but he has shown that he cannot. I am lost as to what to do. I have called Office of Aging and also he was just in emergency room for dehydration. He has also lost considerable weight of 20 pounds in 5 months. Both tell me there is nothing they can do if he is of "sound mind". I use that term loosely.