My husbands cousin is considered as a brother in our culture. He moved in wish us two years ago. He has COPD and his oxygen levels are't good. He is overweight and has poor circulation so has a hard time getting around. He can drive, but has run a few stop signs and so he shouldn't be driving, but cannot walk more than a few feet without sitting down for a minute. I know he doesn't feel well because he will wait for me to come into the family room and then ask for the TV remote or a glass of water. tissues and other trash collect around his sitting area and he doesn't ever clean any of itl I have to do that. He will not let my husband or I share the details of doctors visits so we don't know the extent of his health problems, but I know he has a very hard time breathing. He refused to use supplemental oxygen and he needs it because he is going downhill cognitively. We have to repeat ourselves so often that conversations are frustrating. He constantly interrupts even when we are having conversations with others. He only bathes every 3 or 4 days and doesn't wear deodorant. He also takes over every conversation and goes on and on with the most boring stories. He repeats himself. If I turn the TV to a movie that he doesn't like or hasn't chosen, he will talk through the entire movie. When we have friends over, we have to go to another room if we want to visit because he monopolizes every conversation. He went on a short trip with my husband last week and it was so nice. The family room didn't stink and my children sat and visited and watched movies. We really enjoyed each others company and I realized how much this man has controlled us. I miss spending time with my kids. Cousin is a kind person and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but my kids count too and I miss our family time. Any advice?